So don’t get ahead of the Master and jump to conclusions with your judgments before all the evidence is in. – 1 Corinthians 5:5 The Message
The young wife glanced at the text message on her husband’s phone, and it confirmed her worst suspicions. Adultery! Staring at the text, she sobbed and yelled.
There was only one problem. The husband hadn’t committed adultery. For months his suspicious wife had been accusing him of infidelity, and no matter what he said or did, he couldn’t convince her otherwise. If he went anywhere without her, she accused him of covert meetings. If he was late home because he’d paused to talk with a guy friend at the local store, she “knew” his tardy arrival was due to chatting with his mistress. If he brought her flowers, she said he was just doing a sweet thing as a cover up. And now, in her mind, this text confirmed it all. But in reality, a sister from their church had innocently sent a message about a church event. Yet the suspicious wife could only see all the pieces fitting together. Her adultery filter was completely entrenched, her conclusions pre-determined.
Watch out for false beliefs in your relationships with people. Since you are not God, and since you don’t know the other person’s brain, you cannot completely know what’s true in his or her life. So like the verse above, don’t be so quick to accuse, and don’t second-guess friends’ motives based on your interpretations of their actions. Listen to their explanations. Seek an accurate understanding of their life and their point of view. Inaccurate filters kill friendships.
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