Faithwalkers Journal
Dating: A Marriage Thing-1 - Thursday March 22, 2012
Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me. Song of Songs 2:13 NIV
My husband Dave and I were recently asked what things have contributed to making our marriage a success. One simple practice that has made a huge difference in our marriage is dating. When people think of dating, they usually envision singles getting together to scope each other out, have fun, and get to know each other better. Dating for marrieds? What's the need? They've "scoped," had fun, know each other now, and are committed.

Dave and I realized early on in our marriage that we needed to be intentional in our relationship, or it could easily fizzle and fade. Once we had kids, we saw that we needed "alone time" more than ever to simply carry on conversation without constant interruptions.

And thus our habit of regular dates began. Finding babysitters, carving out time to go out, budgeting resources, and assessing our "needs" have all been involved in the process. In all our busy years of parenting and beyond, dates have been the one time I can count on to have Dave's undivided attention for discussing deeper matters. Though we do have fun going out, we don't have dates to simply entertain ourselves. Our focus is finding out how each other is doing...what's going on in Dave's and Dawn's hearts?

Though life's demands have changed, we still work hard to protect our weekly date time. Even if it is just a simple sandwich at a park, or sipping hot chocolate at a cafŽ, we get out of the house and do what we've tried to do for years: look each other in the eyes and share our hearts.
Submitted by:
Dawn Bovenmyer
Stonebrook Community Church
Ames, Iowa
One-Year Reading Plan:
Numbers 33:40-35:34
Luke 5:12-28
Psalms 65:1-13
Proverbs 11:23
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